A word about gremlins...

A word about gremlins...

The gremlins I’m talking about go by many different names: self-critic, voice in my head, or as Michael A. Singer might call it “the inner roommate”. But, at the heart of it, gremlins are us. That’s right. The voice(s) inside our head that tells us not to speak up, not to take that a risk, to be afraid of failure, that we’re not good enough – those are gremlins.

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Breaking Free from the Shame Spiral

Breaking Free from the Shame Spiral

Not that long ago, I would have tried to counterbalance my shame in the moment by tearing into this person, verbally eviscerating him, leaving no doubt that I thought he was rude, ignorant, FAT, and dozens of other horrible things that probably would have jeopardized my reputation among my team members and within the client team. I didn’t do that, but I wanted to – the desire to punch back and shame him like he’d shamed me was very strong. I’m not going to tell you that I smiled calmly and let his words pass over my aura untouched – I’m not THAT enlightened and beatific. 

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